We all strive to be successful in this world. Whether it be in business, our personal life, or in some other capacity, we would all love to be the best that we can be.
Even if you believe yourself to not personally be in pursuit of the "American Dream", we undoubtedly live in a world that as a whole is quite obsessed with the attainment of it.
But what happens when we do attain success? Does everything in our life suddenly fall together perfectly making us no longer susceptible to challenge or hardship?
Chances are that you, like me, are not "successful" by societal standards, yet you know the answer to the previous question. There are countless examples of individuals who have attained all of the luxuries, wealth, and attention that one could hope for, that still find themselves fundamentally unhappy.
With this being the case, I was happy to come across the work of Dr. Gerald D. Bell through the book The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth written by John C. Maxwell. Within the book, John references a particular study conducted by Dr. Bell in which he asked 4000 now retired successful executives: if you could live your life over again, what would you do differently?
His findings uncovered 8 top regrets that John shared within his book, and that I would like to share with you now alongside my takeaway from each of them. Here are the 8 top regrets of the successful in both video and written form:
1. I WOULD HAVE TAKEN CHARGE OF MY LIFE & SET MY GOALS EARLIER
I've stated this in several previous articles and am going to state it once again since it is certainly worth noting, in this life you are never going to be younger than you are right now. So if not now, when?
Far too many of us are habitual procrastinators, rarely seizing the never-ending opportunity that is this moment to take control of our lives and begin working towards our goals. Don't let another minute pass you by, layout your goals and compliment them with concrete action steps that you can put into practice today!
Struggle with goal setting? My favourite book for helping with this is Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny
2. I WOULD HAVE TAKEN BETTER CARE OF MY HEALTH
In my opinion, one of the saddest things about the way that so many of us approach healthcare is that we are reactive rather than proactive with our health. We wait for symptoms and diagnoses before we make smarter choices and take good care of ourselves.
Choose to be proactive with your dietary choices and exercise habits to minimize your chances of ever receiving that unwanted diagnosis.
Unsure of what works best for your body? Check out this video I put together on the best free dietitian we all have access to.
3. I WOULD HAVE MANAGED MY MONEY BETTER
Effective money management isn't that complicated, yet many of us completely neglect it as if it is. We live paycheck to paycheck with little to no consideration for long-term goals and we put ourselves in debt with no concrete plan in place to get ourselves out of it as quickly as possible.
Whether your financial resources are abundant or bare, we could all benefit from understanding how to best work with the money we earn to maximize its positive impact on us now and in the future.
Unsure of where to start when it comes to money management? One of my favorite books centered around the topic is Money Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom.
4. I WOULD HAVE SPENT MORE TIME WITH MY FAMILY
There are few things more nourishing to our soul than quality time spent with loved friends and family members. Infuse regular time spent with them into your calendar just as you would a mandatory task handed down to you from your boss.
Even if it sets you a bit more behind on some other important tasks, remind yourself that its benefit on you will likely positively impact how you approach those tasks afterwards.
5. I WOULD HAVE SPENT MORE TIME ON PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
The fact that you are reading this article is a pretty good indicator that you recognize the importance of personal development. But let this point remind you to make sure that doing things like this is not just a blip in your radar and is instead a regular part of your life.
Whether it be my work, or the work of one of the other incredibly talented individuals out there committed to the field, make self-help content part of your daily regiment.
Do you find personal development boring? My goal through my website is to make personal development more interesting for both of us!
6. I WOULD HAVE HAD MORE FUN
There are undoubtedly several aspects and experiences within life that need to be taken seriously, but life as a whole is not as serious as so many of us make it out to be. Stop seeking out and living in unnecessary drama and instead choose to dedicate more time to the things that make you smile and laugh.
I'm not suggesting we all quit our day jobs in pursuit of joy, but that we incorporate the things that we love and are passionate about into our weekly planners.
7. I WOULD HAVE PLANNED MY CAREER BETTER
Is there a bigger picture to what you are currently doing for work? Is your current job a stepping stone to a dream project or occupation? Or is it something that you have been and will continue to be complacent within because of the security it provides?
Whether or not you are truly content in your current position we all could benefit from knowing the bigger picture to our careers. Even if the end result is you feeling even more grateful to be exactly where you are, having a plan is more than worth creating.
8. I WOULD HAVE GIVEN MORE BACK
There are few things more rewarding for all parties involved than helping those in need. Whether it be through formal volunteering or even lending a hand to a family or community member that you know could use your help, there are plenty of ways for us to get involved.
Make a point of giving back in any ways that you can, knowing that it can have an even bigger impact than you will directly get to see.
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